Gift baskets, long letters, and red roses seem to fill the atmosphere during the month of February. It is inevitable to see couples mutually in love and able to cherish each other’s company. Even though I have never been able to experience that kind of love, I believe that being single during the lovely month of Valentine’s isn’t a bad thing.
Relationships are already a lot to handle on their own. Whether it’s friends, parents, co-workers, or classmates, responsibility comes with maintaining these relationships. On the other hand, a significant other requires more than those relationships because of the dependency on one another. It is a commitment that you have to stick with once you put yourself in that circumstance.
When someone is single, they gain the opportunity to grow themselves into the best person they can be. In a relationship, you have to learn how to keep your social life, academics, and hobbies balanced with your other half. Without a partner, there is room for improvement without bringing somebody down with you.
As a follower of Christ, I believe that the reason why I don’t have a partner is that I am simply not ready for that commitment. Personally, I struggle with keeping my life balanced on my own, so it shows I’m unable to hold on to a special person. I use this time of what people call “loneliness” to self-reflect on how I can better myself for Jesus, because prioritizing him is how I can receive my desires.
Psalms 37:4 states that if you take delight in the Lord, he will bless you with the desires of your heart. To gain aspirations, I need to put Christ first. Matthew 6:33 also states, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all of these things will be given to you as well.”
On top of that, being grateful for what you have is rewarding by itself. “I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want,” Philippians 4:12.
Sulking in not being able to experience love will only bury you deeper in that hole. Instead, learn how to be content with the hole you built, and live alone with yourself to recognize that it’s all you need at first.
Everybody has a special someone waiting for them; no matter how long it takes, it will always be worth the wait. Rushing into something because of pressure from those around you or feeling behind won’t lead you into the life that you are worthy of having.
I know that God is planning something great for me, and I will gladly wait for whatever he has in store, because his timing is the best timing.
Embrace the season of singleness, as now it’s the time to get to know yourself. Learn new things, try organizing your life for balance, and most importantly, do not rush. If you manage to focus on your priorities, that partner and other desires will come because you have earned them.
Being single isn’t a bad thing; just learn how to be ready for the big commitments.
